Marraige, an Art of Living together- A Global Issue.

 In this century sustainability of marriage is under attack and became a global issue. 

Abstract:  This article on marriage is basically made for the purpose education of my kids and grand kids. 

Family is the fundamental building block of all human civilizations, and marriage is the foundation of the family. In past marriage was regarded as natural and fundamental to humanity – essential to a flourishing civilization. Families are created and held together by the lifelong commitment of a man and a woman who live cooperatively and raise and nurture the children born to them. In this century sustainability of marriage is under attack and became a global issue.  Bonds between couples are very fragile which led to stability problem of families; marriage is in a state of crisis. In this situation, children are becoming victims and become devoid of parent’s love. A major challenge of modern society is to find out suitable solution of marriage issue. In this article I have tried to compile global opinions of well known people from open literature, views on ideas of solving, definition of marriage, teaching of Bible, Hindu marriage tradition,  some proverbs, quotes, etc.

Some interesting global opinions on marriages.

 If there is intense love for each other than all other factors become minor-Ramesh Gohil.

 

 

 

To be united, let our love for each other exceeds our needs for each other. See how birds live.

 

 

Definition of Marriage.

 

“In any relationship, there will be frightening spells in which your feelings of love dry up. And when that happens you must remember that the essence of marriage is that it is a covenant, a commitment, a promise of future love. So what do you do? You do the acts of love, despite your lack of feeling. You may not feel tender, sympathetic, and eager to please, but in your actions you must BE tender, understanding, forgiving and helpful. And, if you do that, as time goes on you will not only get through the dry spells, but they will become less frequent and deep, and you will become more constant in your feelings. This is what can happen if you decide to love.” 

― Timothy Keller, The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

Marriage is a special contract of permanent union between a man and a woman entered into in accordance with law for the establishment of conjugal and family life.  It is the foundation of the family and an inviolable social institution whose nature, consequences, and incidents are governed by law and not subject to stipulation, except that marriage settlements may fix the property relations during the marriage within the limits provided by this Code.  

Gujarati Proverbs

 

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 પ્રેમમાં નિષ્ફળ જાઓ તો પણ ગાંડા થઈ જાઓ અને પ્રેમ સફળ થાય તો પણ ગાંડા થઈ જાઓ !

આ લાકડાનો લાડું ખાનારા કરતાં ન ખાનારા વધારે પસ્તાય છે. પશ્ચિમના લોકો તો વર્ષોથી માને છે ..

કુવારો કોડે મરે ને પરણેલો પીડાએ મરે

લગન એટલે લાકડાના લોડું, ખાય તે પણ પસ્તાય ને નો ખાય તે પણ પસ્તાય

 

Global Opinions

 આ સંસારમાં પ્યારથી મોટો કોઈ જાદુ નથી. બે દિલોને જોડવા માટે  પ્યાર જાદુય ભાગ ભજવે છે. જયારે વિશ્વાસ સૌ  તકલીફોને  દુર કરવામાં જાદુઈ કામ કરી જાય છે ને મનના તારો જોડી દે છે. જયારે મનો જોડાય  જાય ત્યારે પતિ-પત્ની બંને એક બની જાય છે.  આમ જીવન સુમેળવાળું બની જાય છે . -રમેશ એમ. ગોહિલ

For  married life, intense love plays  a magical role.  To connect two hearts love is major player while   trust  help  to   remove  small and big problems.  Thus, love and trust  help to make life  harmonious and make  ideal pair. -Ramesh M. Gohil

After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.
- Al Gore 😛😛

By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
- Socrates 😝😝

Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them.
- Mike Tyson 😝😝

I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs 📄with me.
- Bill Clinton  😉

"Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays."
- George W. Bush 👻

"I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years."
- Rudy Giuliani 💣

"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage."
- Michael Jordan 😜😜

Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming:
1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it.
2. Whenever you're right, shut up.
- Shaquille O'Neal 😘😘

The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once..
- Kobe Bryant😡😡

You know what I did before I married?? Anything I wanted to.
- David Hasselhoff😞😞

My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
- Alec Baldwin 😥😥

A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
- Barack Obama😳😳

When you are in love, Wonders happen.
But once you get married, You wonder, what happened.

 

Mother has more responsibility to raise kids



 

Marriages in Hinduism:  

Hindu Marriage joins two individuals for life, so that they can pursue dharma (duty), artha (possessions), kama (physical desires), and moksha (ultimate spiritual release) together. It is a union of two individuals as husband and wife, and is recognized by law. In Hinduism, marriage is followed by traditional rituals for consummation. It also joins two families together. There are eight types of marriage.

Historically the vedic marriage was the few different types of Hindu marriage customs. Love marriage was also seen in historical Hindu literature and has been variously described by many names, such as Gandharva vivaha. Many people believe that arranged marriage is the traditional form of marriage in India; however love marriage is a modern form, usually in urban areas. Love marriage differs from arranged marriage in that the couple, rather than the parents, chooses their own partner.

These seven vows are known as Saptadi, which are performed along with Mangalpheras, which is revolving around the sacred fire. Any marriage is incomplete without these vows and is deemed complete once they are conducted. On the day of the wedding the bride and the groom sit under the Mandap or the scared canopy for this ritual. The bride is seated towards left of the groom before the pheras( Vows) , while towards the right after they are complete.

The Seven Vows: During Vows  couples give promises to each other and pray for  peace and happiness of  the world. Hence Hindu culture consider world as a family.

Groom: 
You will offer me food and be helpful in every way. I will cherish you and provide welfare and happiness for you and our children. 
Bride:
I am responsible for the home and all household responsibilities. 

Groom: 
Together we will protect our house and children.
Bride:
I will be by your side as your courage and strength. I will rejoice in your happiness. In return, you will love me solely. 

Groom: 
May we grow wealthy and prosperous and strive for the education of our children. May our children live long. 
Bride: 
I will love you solely for the rest of my life, as you are my husband. Every other man in my life will be secondary. I vow to remain chaste. 

Groom:
You have brought sacredness into my life, and have completed me. May we be blessed with noble and obedient children.
Bride:
I will shower you with joy, from head to toe. I will strive to please you in every way I can. 

Groom: You are my best friend, and staunchest well-wisher. You have come into my life, enriching it. God bless you. 
Bride: 
I promise to love and cherish you for as long as I live. Your happiness is my happiness, and your sorrow is my sorrow. I will trust and honor you, and will strive to fulfill all your wishes.

Groom:
May you be filled with joy and peace. 
Bride: 
I will always be by your side.

Groom:
We are now husband and wife, and are one. You are mine and I am yours for eternity. 
Bride: 
As God is witness, I am now your wife. We will love, honor and cherish each other forever

હિંદુ સંસ્કૃતિમાં લગ્નમાં લગ્ન કરતી વખતે વર-વધૂ અગ્નિને સાક્ષી માનીને પતિ-પત્નિના રૂપમાં એકસાથે સુખથી દામ્પત્યજીવન વીતાવવાની પ્રતિજ્ઞા લે છે અને આને જ અંતર્ગત જ સાત ફેરા ફરે છે. જેને સપ્તપદી કહેવામાં આવે છે. સાત ફેરા ફરવાની સાથે સાત વચન પણ લેવામાં આવે છે.

(1)સૌ પ્રથમ વચન હોય છે કે પતિ-પત્નિને આજીવન પર્યાપ્ત અને સન્માનનીય રીતે ભોજન મળતું રહે.

(2) બીજું દંપતીનું જીવન શાંતિ અને સુખેથી વીતે.

(3) ત્રીજું બન્ને જીવનમાં આધ્યાત્મિક તથા ધર્મિક કર્તવ્યનું પાલન કરે.

(4) ચોથા ફેરામાં બન્ને સૌહાર્દ્રપૂર્ણ  તથા પરસ્પર પ્રેમ સાથે જીવન વિતાવે,

(5) પાંચમા ફેરાનું વચન હોય છે વિશ્વનું કલ્યાણ થાય અને સંતાનપ્રાપ્તિ થાય.

(6) છઠ્ઠા વચનમાં પ્રાર્થના કરવામાં આવે છે કે તમામ ઋતુઓ યોગ્ય રીતે ધનધાન્ય ઉત્પન્ન કરીને સમગ્ર વિશ્વને સુખી કરે, કારણ કે તમામના સુખમાં દંપતીનું પણ ભલું થાય છે  અને

(7) સાતમા ફેરામાં પતિ-પત્નિ પરસ્પર વિશ્વાસ, એકતા, મનમેળ અને શાંતિ સાથે જીવન વ્યતીત કરે.

આ સાત ફેરા સાથે લેવામાં આવતા વચનમાં વિશ્વની શાંતિ અને સુખની પ્રાર્થના કરવામાં આવે છે.  

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

— I Corinthians 13: 4-8 (Bible)

 

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

— I Corinthians 13: 4-8 (Bible)